Seven months is a pretty long time to live anywhere. After seven months on a remote island, your average anthropologist would have all the material for their next bestselling book, and would be busy planning their next trip dog-sledding with the Inuits. After seven months in a city, your average cartographer would know every single road, including all the tiny short cuts that spit you out in the middle of a five-lane motorway if you don’t turn off in time. After seven months in a wood, your average druid would be able to have a long chat with all the trees, covering news stories from as far back as the 1700s. But after seven months in Orleans, I still have a lot of questions. Here are eleven things that I will never understand about the French.
1) Why isn’t there a train from Paris between half eight in the evening and ten past eleven? Pretty much everyone I know has arrived breathless at the station at 20.31, and been forced to haunt the McDo opposite, trying to work out what constitutes an acceptable purchase for three hours of wifi (the consensus seems to be a small portion of chips). Being at Notre Dame, looking at your watch, and realising that it’s a quarter past eight is one of the worst feelings I know.
2) Why do French children need a two hour lunch break? It’s not as if they’re the ones doing the cooking. If we just chucked them a babybell after half an hour and slung them back into class, it would free up much more of the day for wine drinking, baguette eating, and other important French cultural things.
3) Speaking of baguettes, why are French women so slim? I’ve swollen into a bread-filled balloon since being in France, but I’m still surrounded by women who are the same shape as their breakfast snack. What do they do with their baguettes? Lick them?
4) When is it evening? This might sound like a stupid question, but bear with me. In France, you switch from greeting people with ‘bonjour’ to ‘bonsoir’ as soon as it’s evening, and you greet everyone. On the other hand, there doesn’t seem to be a clear cut-off point. I’ll be ‘bonsoir-ed’ in a shop at three in the afternoon – the day time by anyone’s standards – but try it again three hours later, and a cheery ‘bonjour’ will ring through the halls.
5) Why is the wine so cheap? And I mean really, really, two-euros-fifty-cheap. I’m not complaining here. I want to know their secret.
6) Why do French men wear man bags? Specifically small, rectangular, Gucci man bags. They don’t look good, not now, not ever.
7) Why do French people hate medium sized dogs? The lady downstairs has a tiny, yappy bulldog. The man across the road has a huge hairy dog that looks like a rug on legs. I have never ever seen someone with an averagely big dog. In France, you can go big, go small, or go home.
8) What on earth do French people do on a Monday morning, Wednesday afternoon, or a Sunday? Everything’s shut, and you never see them on the streets. Do they all go to a special club? Why didn’t they invite me?
9) Are there any French people who actually know all the different kinds of cheese? Or all the different kinds of wine? I read somewhere that there are 400 types of French cheese, and 354 different wine regions. Trying all of them seems like a brilliant bucket-list thing for a massive francophile, but it’s not for me. When my food is mouldy, I’d rather leave it on the plate.
10) What does ‘j’arrive’ mean? Are you just around the corner? Are you striding purposefully along a few streets away? Are you at your front door, struggling with your shoes? Or are you still in the bath? I’m guessing the latter.
11) Why does this place have such a hold on me? I’ve been back in England for a week and a half, and I’m already counting down the days till I go back. This time I’ll be an au-pair, looking after children and living with the family. Maybe this sort of deep cultural immersion will start to answer my questions. But even if it doesn’t, I can’t wait to get back on my french-speaking, baguette-guzzling, wine-spilling, confusion-making way.
Image from Flickr, by Bruno Cordioli